Tuesday, March 8, 2016

Change... Not By Choice But Change Nevertheless

The title of this week's post is mis-leading.  One always has choice.  However, my choice to wear my hair naturally came from Cancer first; evolution and enlightenment followed.

Toni Staton Harris
Today I watched one of my favorite writer's, speaker and "image activist", Michaela Angela Davis and recognized that we wear our hair in similar styles. Don't get me wrong, Ms. Davis along with many others have been un-apologetically rocking natural hair styles for years.  It was today I realized that in listening to her unabashed courage to embrace our natural beauty, I rock my natural with pride and commitment.
Michaela Angela Davis
Writer~Speaker~Image Activist

Listening to Ms. Davis speak so profoundly as she often does, made me wonder... If I hadn't endured Cancer would I have been "rocking" my Natural?  To be honest, I doubt it.

Tuesday, February 23, 2016

Where's Debbie Duncan?

Perusing Facebook, I happened upon a  thread concerning the tragic death of  Major Barney, a Metro-Atlanta Police Officer who was slain in the line of duty.  A Facebook user, Debbie Duncan, fueled a hate-filled discussion by asking...  [Where's Al Sharpton and BeyoncĂ© now... I guess Black Lives matter only when they're not blue...]

Regardless of the community or group one primarily affiliates with, most of us can say we abhor crime.  We don't celebrate the criminal pariahs that exist in all communities.  We are all incensed when injustice supersedes justice.  When criminality eclipses lawfulness, regardless of which side the criminality occurs, we all suffer.

Whether it's an innocent child walking home then murdered by a thug with a firearm and no authority or an unarmed man holding up his wallet to identify himself is gunned down by more than forty bullets or a police officer slain in the line of duty, it is all reprehensible.

People who poke the public with thinly veneered, race-baited sarcasm and dog whistles unnerve me.

Moreso disdainful is when injustice is served exponentially, perpetuated and upheld by those sworn to exact fairness regardless of one's personal biases.  Case and point: a criminal, thug walks into a church of unarmed praying parishioners, proceeds to execute them and the judge has the unmitigated gall to admonish the victims and families to not only think of their hurt but emphasizes to have sympathy for the thug and his family.  To twist the knife further lawmakers and blowhards blame the victims for not being armed.  I ask Where's Debbie Duncan?

When innocent children attending school are murdered by thugged-out criminals legally obtaining lethal assault weapons  and the lobbyist for gun control maintain the ease of accessing these weapons...  When a woman is pulled out of her car for a minor traffic offense, arrested for resisting arrest and is now dead...  Where's Debbie Duncan?

How about when a sitting president is unabashedly disrespected, elected officials criminally refuse to work for the betterment of its constituents, our country, because of bigotry?  When a mentally ill woman driving erratically in a car outside of the White House is gunned down while her baby is in the back seat, but a man jumps the White House fence and makes it through the front door and is still alive... Is Debbie Duncan speaking out against these atrocities?

What is Debbie saying when an officer executes a fleeing man, attempts to frame the unarmed man with a weapon and falsifies his police report.  The officer is jailed only because his irrefutable actions are caught on camera, not that that helped Rodney King--I digress.  Then said officer is quietly released on bail to await trial.  Is Debbie Duncan protesting the officer's release on bail?   Again I ask Where is Debbie Duncan?

Dear Debbie, 

We see you... 

Tuesday, January 5, 2016

Are You A Hoarder? Pt. 2: Tips to Stop Hoarding

So, you've figured out that you're a hoarder, too?  Or, in the very least, you have a room or space that could use some winter cleansing.  Well, it's a new year and no better time like the present.  Let's get started...

First I caution you, even for the mild hoarder, purging isn't always smooth.  You'll find lost items and use every excuse to re-incorporate them into your life, regardless that you've gotten along without it. Don't stress or feel torn.  Breathe.  Put the item aside and come back to it in 24 hours.  Then take action: put it to use, donate or discard it.

Thursday, December 31, 2015


2015 has been an amazing year of hills, valleys and value.  I turned the big five-O and as I look back, I might have done some things differently but I have no regrets.

Things, people, places and events happen because they happen all with the intent for growth.  Growing pains can be difficult but deep inside I cherish that growth is for my own good.  When we view growth as an opportunity, the pain somehow, neutralizes.

Happy New Year!  May you and yours experience and recognize God's perpetual Grace, Mercy, Love, Protection and Prosperity!  May you be filled and full with love.  May you have, hold and exude Peace.

This is my prayer for you, me and my loved ones.  I go forward to and through 2016 with a quote that continues to propel and ground me at the same time...

We are not meant to be perfect, we are meant to be WHOLE.~Jane Fonda, Oprah Winfrey's Master Class

I go forth with the intention and integrity to be whole.  I wish the same for you!

Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Are You A Hoarder?

Up until a few weeks ago, I would have answered that question with an emphatic no!  I'm the girl who faithfully rummages her closet to discard anything not worn in the last two years.  Then I had to search through a vanity drawer for a shower cap.  I rifled through a sea of goods and when I finished, I had a tall garbage bag worth of stuff.

Thursday, December 24, 2015

Why I Celebrate Christmas!

The miracle birth of Christ is first and foremost.  It is a season of thanks and giving, not necessarily in a momentous gift kind of way--a sister still loves a great gift--but in a giving of love, passion, friendship and peace kind of way.

For me, this is the season where you practice, kindness, patience, love and hope for the remainder of the year and the year to come.

For me, this is the season, the time when all strife, anger and disappointment takes respite.

As much as this season is spiritual and Holy Spirit filled, it is also cultural.  It's the time that with one glance reminds me of my cherished childhood as well as present and future opportunities for even greater moments and memories.

Sometimes I'm weepy.  I miss loved ones that transitioned.  I was just talking about how Cleon (transitioned) and Darren signed all of the gifts from my Aunt and Uncle, love Cleon and Darren.  Injeel shared with me how his brother Duane (transitioned) taught him to wrap gifts.  My husband is an outstanding gift wrapper.  I miss my family back East as well.  Their all preparing for our family Christmas Eve traditions while putting together the meal that is sure to please, tomorrow.

And I get it, for some this season is most difficult, especially with the recent transition of a loved one.  It is my prayer that even in that loss and transition, one finds joy.  That is my prayer.

With all of that, Christmas is still one of my favorite times of the year because it is a true representation of Love.

So with all of that said....  Merry Christmas! Love The Harrises!

2015 Holiday Cheer!


Thursday, December 17, 2015

Why Being Mary Jane Was Everything

Being Mary Jane
Season 3 Finale
Three must be a charm because, finally for this series, our language was spoken and in a most non-traditional way.  Being Mary Jane inspired thought, consideration but mostly had us embroiled in a myriad of issues, some discussed ad-nauseam.

I called this season, empowerment.  Empowerment was intricately woven into every episode.  Empowerment sounds easy, but MJ showed us, it’s not.